We all get those down in the dump moods where nothing seems to be going right or our way and it just feels like we’re living out our day under a dark cloud. When we feel like this, it causes a darkness over our thoughts, feelings and experiences throughout the day. We ignore or don’t recognise what is working in our day. Our bad mood takes over and suddenly everything is blown out of perspective – we hate our jobs, our partners are annoying, the kids are noisier than usual, we are pessimistic about reaching a deadline way before we need to be concerned. We avoid being around happy people. We talk badly about ourselves to ourselves – “I can’t believe I just did that!” “Why am I so impatient?”
Deep down we know things aren’t as bad as they seem but it’s like we are feeding this insatiable appetite to stay in the miserable mood we began the day with! Why do we do this to ourselves?
Whatever background or lifestyle you have, it’s important to be self-aware of your thoughts. Remind yourself:
When you are aware of your bad mood, bring your awareness to the emotion you are feeling at the time. Rather than avoid a negative feeling, you should allow yourself to move into it, and through it. These feelings no matter how mild, such as frustration, boredom, impatience, anticipation all need to be acknowledged so you don’t miss out on the opportunity to learn and be productive in doing something about them.
If you are sad, mad and in pain, maybe these emotions are telling you to give yourself some love, some attention. Perhaps it’s a day that you need to make yourself a priority. By staying in the low mood feelings you are ignoring them and they will continue. They won’t go away that quickly. Or they may resurface again when you least expect them or at a worse time. We may even lash out at others that may not deserve it.
We must manage our feelings if we are to be effective in our social surroundings with others and ourselves. When we hate feeling bored, sad, frustrated and constantly keep ourselves distracted with busy meaningless, unimportant chores or activities to avoid these feelings, we will never discover ways to really feel content. If we feel apologies are for weak, unassertive people, we will fail to recognise when an apology is due or necessary in a relationship. It’s important to realise that our emotions are there to serve us for the better, the emotions we like and don’t like are there to send us a message to do something different, to motivate us to change. Otherwise we will continue to stay in a bad mood, low energy vibration and repeat the pattern over and over again.
So next time, you are in a bad mood, bring awareness to what emotions you are feeling and what triggered them. Reel in your self-talk and stop the inner critic from wallowing and swallowing up all the good in your day. Recognise emotions for what they are, temporary – like clouds in the sky, they too will pass. You will notice the more you bring awareness to your thoughts, the easier it becomes to change the pattern of thinking to see challenges as opportunities and remember your feelings are there to help you understand something important. Self-awareness is vital to discovering and understanding who we really are!
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