Patience is a state of mind that we appear to never have enough of. In today’s society almost everything we want is available at our fingertips. If we’re hungry, we can call up and have it at our doorsteps in minutes. If we want to buy a new book, we simply go online and it’s downloaded immediately. The same goes for entertainment, we can download and rent a movie, a game and even Facetime a friend and not have to get in our car and drive there. We don’t have to wait for anything anymore so why is patience still so valuable?
Have you ever observed someone who is acting impatiently at the grocery store, at a mall, or in traffic for example? You might consider them rude, arrogant, inconsiderate, or selfish. What can we learn for these experiences? We can learn to not come across as being over-bearing, angry, judgmental. The best way to do this is to practice patience even though we are living in a world of instant gratification. We are not tested often enough to practice patience but when we are we must ask ourselves certain questions before we flip out and get angry such as: -
After you have asked yourself these questions and have a deeper understanding as to what has you feeling so impatient, it’s time to analyze your situation: -
“He that can have patience can have what he will.” - Benjamin Franklin
When you begin to think more deeply about this problem and how it affects others in the moment, or people you will see shortly after you are still consumed by your meltdown. You realize that you may just need to change your perception of the people involved or situation that was party to your impatient outburst - you could ask yourself: -
In some cases, we are impatient because we feel we have no control over something, for example, delegating work to others and hoping they stick to our deadline. We need to analyze how much control we actually need in all areas of our life. We may find that we are putting too much pressure on family, friends, and work colleagues. This causes us to be impatient with those people and events in our lives. This in turn causes friction between our relationships.
Having patience is so beneficial when it comes to making decisions at work, or building your own business. We make mistakes by being impulsive and looking for quick solutions. Being patient in our relationships is so important because we allow our loved ones to have a voice, an opinion, an idea on something. We are more approachable, appear calm, relaxed and more enjoyable to be around. Patience brings people closer while impatience brings hostility and distance.
"Why is patience so important? Because it makes us pay attention." - Paulo Coelho
Patience does not come easily; it is something that must be practiced just like any behavior. Patience is nourishing, it allows us to be thoughtful and calm. Look at some ways to be more conscious of our state of mind: -
Be happy, healthy and patient - it's all practice!
We all have attended an event where the speaker shouts out “let’s get energized” – right? Have you ever considered how important that is, energy?
What do we do when asked the question at the event – we usually start to raise our voices, clap our hands, and start to jump around. Movement is energy, and is key to all life. How do you feel emotionally when you get energized – pumped up, correct?
“Emotions are Energy in Motion."
Think about running water, full of vitality and life – very important to us, but what happens when water lies still and stops flowing – it becomes stagnant. Just like stagnant water, we become poisonous to ourselves, if we begin to draw in and or dwell in negativity. Our energy begins to ebb, and our emotions begin to change. We move from positive to negative – we attract negativity instead of positivity in situations and people around us!
Ever paced up and down on an important phone call, ever noticed that you sound more confident when you stand up on a phone call?. When you smile while on the phone – the other person can actually feel the difference in your tone – your energy is different – it’s positive! How does your energy change when you meet someone new, a new great friend, or you meet that someone special – it’s electric, isn’t it? Everything is energy, it is the universe and it is you.
Energy is motion and movement is a must. It is not required for all of us to run a marathon, swim the English Channel or climb Mount Everest, but we need movement. This is not just about physical health; it’s about our overall health, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Just as it is important to remember to quiet your thoughts and be mindful – movement is life, is energy and a key element to happiness.
“Happiness consists in activity. It is a running stream, not a stagnant pool”. – John Mason Good
Reflect back to the science you learned in school (however, long ago that was). Energy is made up of positive and negative ions but what we sometimes forget is that we have the power to change our energy. By making a concerted effort to move our bodies, we in turn are choosing to be more positive. It changes our emotions, it changes our focus in our daily life, on the world around us, on how the world sees us and experiences us. Movement fast tracks us into tapping into positivity.
If you feel like you are stuck in a rut, ask yourself:
“Life is like a mirror – smile at it and it smiles back at you!”