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Want to Be More Confident?

6/23/2022

Don’t wait to feel confident in pursuing a goal to do something new and challenging, build confidence by doing – take action. The more we act, our confidence grows. Instead of thinking of all the ways things could go wrong (fear), your focus goes on the action steps your taking – you feel in control, and you feel more certain, more confident. This is not saying that everything will work out as planned, that’s not the intention here. It’s to get started and build evidence that you are stronger than you think.

Do the following to feel more confident:

Gain knowledge: If there is something you want to be better at or achieve, find resources – books, training courses, YouTube videos, Ted talks – so much is available online – put in the time, educate yourself and learn.
Dress for Success: Your appearance is important. Not only will you appear more confident to others, but you feel good when your hair and/or makeup is done. Looking good and feeling good helps your confidence.
Be Curious: Replace comparison with curiosity: Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. We all are unique and have different talents and experience. Instead, look at role models in your life or on social media and notice what it is about them that inspire you to do and be better so you can grow your confidence.
Visualize: Spend time visualizing the outcomes you wish to have. If you have a meeting at work, social event where you need to be confident – do a mental rehearsal in your mind days and hours before it. Use all your senses. Imagine it on a large movie screen, see yourself looking confident, speaking clearly and relaxed looking. Feel how good it feels to be confident presenting, speaking in front of others. Many performers, sports athletes do this very exercise because they know that when they put in the mental practice, their confidence increases, and they perform at their best!

The more you take action on challenging experiences, store memories of success, you will naturally become more confident. Don’t wait to feel confident, develop your confidence!

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want
to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy”
– Dale Carnegie

Believe you can. Act, and feel your confidence soar! - Ki4life Coaching

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Compare with Care

6/22/2022

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We naturally wonder and compare how we measure up to others in society, but we must be careful not to allow those comparisons to diminish us. Psychologists recognize two types of envy. Benign envy is the healthier of the two where we admire someone, and they inspire us to want to be a better version of ourselves. The other is malicious envy where we begrudge someone for the life they have or their success. One can initiate change and motivate us to be better and the other, leaves us feeling stuck in place, bitter and resentful.

When you find that you are comparing yourself to others, and you will, we usually compare our weaknesses to other people’s strengths. This is not a fair comparison. We have no idea how many hours a week and social sacrifices those we are comparing to had to endure to get to where they are. We don’t know how much practice or injuries they had before being exceptional at their talent or sport. Remember, you’re only seeing others highlight reels. They’re not posting their struggles or practices.

Instead, as you compare, it’s going to happen, try these suggestions:

Ask yourself: What is this comparison trying to tell you? Use the comparison to uncover what you value and act. If this person can succeed, what’s stopping you?
Compare and see what’s possible: What does your role models (famous or not), do that you admire most about them? How do they show up? How do they capture the attention of their audience? They’ve written books, created a YouTube channel – observe and learn from them. Don’t despair, compare to be better
Look at it as a reboot: Sometimes we compare to others and see how they have reacted when they failed, not allowing failure to define them, and how they pushed themselves forwards. You see that starting over whether it’s a new relationship, career or diet doesn’t mean you are ‘falling behind’. You learn that with the knowledge and experience you gain from failing, it’s not starting from the beginning.
Acknowledge what you have accomplished so far and recognize that you are not where you used to be – celebrate your wins!

"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you." – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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