Do you believe that you can’t do the things that matter most to you like starting a new business, a fitness or health goal, or finding a new job because you just don’t have enough time?
"Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important." – Stephen Covey
There are only 24 hours in a day, the same 24 hours everyone has, but why do some seem to have more time, or are able to make time? Not all of us have the same amount of spare time, but all of us tend to allocate time to things that are never going to move the needle for us. How do some who have the same hectic lives as we do, get to their important goals? They prioritize and de-prioritize based on what’s truly important and relevant to their needs.
It’s very easy for us to make excuses like ‘not enough time’ to go after what is important and fulfilling in our lives because underneath the excuses, is the belief that you are not smart enough, good enough, financially secure enough, creative enough – not ‘enough’ in some way.
First and foremost, when we have a belief that limits us, our minds go looking for things to match our beliefs. It gives us evidence to prove our beliefs are true and fact. If we believe we don’t have enough time, then our minds give us plenty of things to keep us busy and not find the time.
If we believe, people think we are dull and boring at parties, then all our minds do is have us look around the room all night looking for evidence to prove it by us assuming, anytime we see someone turn their backs in the room to us, they are avoiding us, or if someone leaves early, they must not want to be around us.
So, what do we do about these pestering limiting beliefs and how do we start creating the life, the goal we really want? (To help you remove limiting beliefs, here is a link to one of my other blogs: “Are you the Designer of your own Life”)
To get clear on what is currently going on in your situation, what is and isn’t working for you, it’s a good exercise to write down 2 columns:
1) Things I do not like or want
Now when that’s done, you need to look at the things you do want and write them down in sentence form again but this time, 1) be specific, 2) in present tense and 3) with feeling added to it.
Make sure to tackle any negative limiting beliefs that you have about your goal. If you write down your goals and you hear yourself saying “Oh I could never achieve that!” “This is easier said than done” – these are goal killing statements and they are sabotaging your efforts. That’s why I began each sentence with “I’ve decided” – your mind is unlikely going to shut that down because it’s a positive word and it’s always possible to “decide” on anything. It is believable to your unconscious mind.
You have now discovered what you do and do not want in life. Now you need to check whether these goals fit in with your values, identity and purpose. By asking yourself questions such as:-
If the answers to these questions are positive and have you visualizing the end result feeling enthusiastic, then you know you are on the right path to bring it to fruition. You and you alone are responsible for your happiness, your journey. Take time out of your day or week and focus on what you want in life. Get excited about all the choices you have. Write it all down and make them happen!
Once ‘time’ passes, it’s gone. We will never get it back. So let’s not waste time and start doing what brings us fulfilment.
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When my Mom announced her health issues were finally diagnosed as stage 4 pancreatic cancer in the summer of 2014, I knew that both me and my Mom would benefit from Reiki healing to get us through this dramatic turn of events.
At the time, we lived nearly 5,000 miles away from each other so getting this news was more painful as I knew our time together was very limited. All I wanted to do is to be able to physically see and check in on her frequently and I knew that would not be possible. I visited every 12 weeks and we arranged to train in Reiki through all the levels together, attending Reiki Shares and incorporating Reiki into our lives every day.
Back in 2014 I had been introduced to Reiki level 1 and after receiving attunement, I noticed very subtle changes in my everyday life. Firstly, when I spent a few minutes a day providing Reiki healing to myself, I felt immediate peace, love and harmony for myself and surroundings (something I struggled to do with a busy life). I used Reiki on myself for all sorts of physical aches and pains. If I felt over stressed or anxious, I would apply Reiki and it always relieved it, but it also opened up my spiritual awareness.
I was attuned and practiced Reiki for only 3 months before my Mom’s diagnosis and I felt Reiki came into my life at the right time. My Mom strongly believed her medical treatments were keeping her alive and she felt Reiki would not contradict or interfere with that. She loved knowing that Reiki could do no harm and she would benefit in so many ways from it.
We knew that Reiki alone would not heal my Mom’s physical health, but Reiki works on all levels – our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels. There is nothing worse to see someone in pain and not being able to do anything to help them but having Reiki allowed me to assist my Mom with releasing her pain and Reiki worked every time!
A year into my Mom’s cancer treatments, she was diagnosed with a second type of cancer that was in her blood. It was even more aggressive than the 1st cancer. Doctor’s believed they would not be successful in finding a chemo cocktail that would be strong enough to control this particular cancer and as it was a rare type, they had no earlier cases to help guide their choice of drugs. After a month on this new cocktail, they would know if it was working and if it didn’t they would have nothing else to attack it with.
Fortunately, it did work. Doctors were astonished that they could be that fortunate to discover a drug the first-time round that would control it. But she was told, that she could not take a break from this treatment due to the aggressive nature of this cancer. My Mom’s body reacted to this as she suffered with severe Shingles 3 months later that spread around her chest and back leaving her with permanent scarring. At this point my Mom was mentally her strongest even with all this going on with her physically. It was obvious from looking in her face, she was without pain most of the time and was truly accepting of all of it. She allowed herself to continue enjoying life with her close friends and partner. My Mom never complained about any of it! But I truly believe, it was my Mom’s daily Reiki practices and visualizations that truly helped this come to pass. She believed Reiki was assisting her in managing pain and keeping her mentally strong. She also believed Reiki helped to give her more time. She was right.
When I had to return home to Scottsdale, Arizona, I would do distant healing through Reiki for my Mom which allowed me to feel I was able to continue to help her in some way and it gave me great comfort to know that Reiki works no matter the distance in miles.
My Mom was always a strong confident woman, but I believe that Reiki assisted my Mom to defy the odds that she would only have months to live. Instead she lived with cancer for 2 ½ years, battling 2 types of the most aggressive cancers and continued to live, laugh and love all her time with her close friends and family. The quality of life was astonishing considering all the chemo and radiation treatments she endured. It was only the last 3 months or so that she slowed down.
I am forever grateful for having Reiki especially at this very painful time in my life. It helped me let go anger, frustration and resentment around my Mom’s diagnosis, so I could enjoy celebrating with her the extra time together we didn’t expect to have. Reiki brought much needed healing and forgiveness between us and opened our hearts fully to understand and love each other without judgement.
Reiki continues to comfort and ease the emotional pain I experience since my Mom’s death, but I know she’s with me in spirit. Reiki, I believe provided great comfort to my Mom especially in her last few days of life. My Mom was only 65 but looked 55 even at the time of her death.
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