Do you believe that you can’t do the things that matter most to you like starting a new business, a fitness or health goal, or finding a new job because you just don’t have enough time?
"Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important." – Stephen Covey
There are only 24 hours in a day, the same 24 hours everyone has, but why do some seem to have more time, or are able to make time? Not all of us have the same amount of spare time, but all of us tend to allocate time to things that are never going to move the needle for us. How do some who have the same hectic lives as we do, get to their important goals? They prioritize and de-prioritize based on what’s truly important and relevant to their needs.
It’s very easy for us to make excuses like ‘not enough time’ to go after what is important and fulfilling in our lives because underneath the excuses, is the belief that you are not smart enough, good enough, financially secure enough, creative enough – not ‘enough’ in some way.
First and foremost, when we have a belief that limits us, our minds go looking for things to match our beliefs. It gives us evidence to prove our beliefs are true and fact. If we believe we don’t have enough time, then our minds give us plenty of things to keep us busy and not find the time.
If we believe, people think we are dull and boring at parties, then all our minds do is have us look around the room all night looking for evidence to prove it by us assuming, anytime we see someone turn their backs in the room to us, they are avoiding us, or if someone leaves early, they must not want to be around us.
So, what do we do about these pestering limiting beliefs and how do we start creating the life, the goal we really want? (To help you remove limiting beliefs, here is a link to one of my other blogs: “Are you the Designer of your own Life”)
To get clear on what is currently going on in your situation, what is and isn’t working for you, it’s a good exercise to write down 2 columns:
1) Things I do not like or want
Now when that’s done, you need to look at the things you do want and write them down in sentence form again but this time, 1) be specific, 2) in present tense and 3) with feeling added to it.
Make sure to tackle any negative limiting beliefs that you have about your goal. If you write down your goals and you hear yourself saying “Oh I could never achieve that!” “This is easier said than done” – these are goal killing statements and they are sabotaging your efforts. That’s why I began each sentence with “I’ve decided” – your mind is unlikely going to shut that down because it’s a positive word and it’s always possible to “decide” on anything. It is believable to your unconscious mind.
You have now discovered what you do and do not want in life. Now you need to check whether these goals fit in with your values, identity and purpose. By asking yourself questions such as:-
If the answers to these questions are positive and have you visualizing the end result feeling enthusiastic, then you know you are on the right path to bring it to fruition. You and you alone are responsible for your happiness, your journey. Take time out of your day or week and focus on what you want in life. Get excited about all the choices you have. Write it all down and make them happen!
Once ‘time’ passes, it’s gone. We will never get it back. So let’s not waste time and start doing what brings us fulfilment.
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