“Where focus goes, energy flows. And if you don’t take the time to focus on what matters, then you’re living a life of someone else’s design.” – Tony Robbins
I have a new goal to learn how to play golf, and I have been working toward that goal with instruction from my husband. Part of this requires practice at the driving range. Although my husband is a patient teacher of the game, I struggled to hit the ball much further than the 75-yard mark. I tried every club and the result was always the same.
This caused me to feel very frustrated and all I wanted to do was drop kick the club across the green.
On my last visit, 5 minutes before leaving, my husband was scratching his head baffled as to what I was doing wrong. He asked me where was my focus point on the range. I said I just look at the 75-yard marker and shoot straight in that direction – Bingo! Being a Hypnotherapist I realized instantly what I was doing wrong all along.Duh! I can’t believe I hadn’t figured it out sooner!
I realized that I had not adjusted my focus; my goal of hitting the ball further would never be achieved if I always focused on the 75-yard marker. I moved my focus to a spot of grass between the 75-yard and 150-yard marker. Once I focused on that spot, I aimed and successfully hit the exact spot. Obviously, I missed the spot many times, but my distance had changed and I was hitting the distance every time.
This is exactly what is required in every day goals – focus. We need to have goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound (SMART). In working with clients, I find most of the time, clients issues relate to being vague in what they want to achieve. They want to achieve “something” “sometime” but not clear on the what, the when, and equally important the how! Putting in 100% effort without SMART goals will simply be spinning your wheels!
It is not always easy to self identify with what’s holding us back – if you are struggling with success, focus or achieving your goals – contact me and I will put a coaching plan in place to help you with your focus, your goals and move you toward success!