We all have attended an event where the speaker shouts out “let’s get energized” – right? Have you ever considered how important that is, energy?
What do we do when asked the question at the event – we usually start to raise our voices, clap our hands, and start to jump around. Movement is energy, and is key to all life. How do you feel emotionally when you get energized – pumped up, correct?
“Emotions are Energy in Motion."
Think about running water, full of vitality and life – very important to us, but what happens when water lies still and stops flowing – it becomes stagnant. Just like stagnant water, we become poisonous to ourselves, if we begin to draw in and or dwell in negativity. Our energy begins to ebb, and our emotions begin to change. We move from positive to negative – we attract negativity instead of positivity in situations and people around us!
Ever paced up and down on an important phone call, ever noticed that you sound more confident when you stand up on a phone call?. When you smile while on the phone – the other person can actually feel the difference in your tone – your energy is different – it’s positive! How does your energy change when you meet someone new, a new great friend, or you meet that someone special – it’s electric, isn’t it? Everything is energy, it is the universe and it is you.
Energy is motion and movement is a must. It is not required for all of us to run a marathon, swim the English Channel or climb Mount Everest, but we need movement. This is not just about physical health; it’s about our overall health, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Just as it is important to remember to quiet your thoughts and be mindful – movement is life, is energy and a key element to happiness.
“Happiness consists in activity. It is a running stream, not a stagnant pool”. – John Mason Good
Reflect back to the science you learned in school (however, long ago that was). Energy is made up of positive and negative ions but what we sometimes forget is that we have the power to change our energy. By making a concerted effort to move our bodies, we in turn are choosing to be more positive. It changes our emotions, it changes our focus in our daily life, on the world around us, on how the world sees us and experiences us. Movement fast tracks us into tapping into positivity.
If you feel like you are stuck in a rut, ask yourself:
“Life is like a mirror – smile at it and it smiles back at you!”
Relationships are one of the most complex situations we will face but they provide one of our top human needs – love and connection. Conflicts in relationships can quickly cost us our happiness and peace. We are responsible for the understanding or mis-understanding of our verbal and non-verbal communication with others to cultivate healthy relationships.
One of the main reasons that relationships suffer is that many people focus on their own wants, needs and preferences and don’t value the same for others. When two people that put their own needs first and are in a relationship with each other, they will find themselves in a power struggle and both will feel their way is the only way – to ‘be right’ all the time. These relationships will often be filled with conflict and misunderstanding.
“Attachment to being right creates suffering. When you have a choice, or to be kind, choose kind and watch your suffering disappear” – Wayne Dyer.
If both people in a relationship don’t commit to investing 100% into their relationship, what will happen is that one person ends up giving more and the other gets comfortable with receiving more which causes an imbalance. This imbalance over time, wears on the relationship, bitterness, resentment and mistrust can occur. There are simple practices that can greatly improve our relationships and they all start with working on ourselves first.
1. Communication such as active listening sends a direct message to the other person that we appreciate and value what they have to say. Some of us struggle with paying full attention because we are more focused on how we’re going to respond or on how the conversation is making us feel. We need to focus on the other person, not so much on ourselves. Having direct eye contact while someone is speaking shows we’re fully engaged. Listening to someone builds trust in the relationship and increases the other person’s self-esteem because they feel valued. Think of active listening like tuning into a radio station. If you don’t find the exact signal, you miss half or all of the message and hear white noise. We need to concentrate on what is said to hear the whole message.
2. Mindful speech is another area of communication that can be fine-tuned to improve our relationships. It is helpful to resist the urge to react mindlessly and immediately to things that others say and do. We are all guilty of saying or doing something wrong at times, and the same goes for others too. None of us are perfect. Instead, pause and reflect on what was said. Then choose your words carefully. Be sure to say what you mean and mean what you say. In some instances, it is better to say nothing than when you are emotionally charged and responding badly. Avoid doing the following:
Example, “you look frustrated”,
“no I’m not”,
“yes you are, it’s obvious”,
“what the hell are you talking about”,
“why are you raising your voice at me?”
“I’m not frustrated”
“stop shouting at me”
Whether you are working on a relationship with your partner, or simply looking to have better personal relationships with the people in your life, active listening, mindful speech and awareness are at the core of great relationships. If people want things always their way, it’s not going to work out, it is always about give and take, and always finding a balance.
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