 When we want to uplevel our lives in some way, we often feel agitated, bored, anxious, or frustrated that something is just not right. We sense or feel that it’s time to change and try something different in our lives. Perhaps you want to feel more growth, significance, certainty, excitement, connection, or love. Sometimes we know what we want more of but make the excuse that we are too busy to pursue it and act.
Changing your habits, and creating new behaviors takes time and repetition. Only with persistence can they become easy and a natural part of your identity. Over time, your habits become automatic (unconscious). So, you can’t just drop an old habit or behavior without replacing it with another new and improved one. Our brains work by addition, not subtraction. Without replacement, our old neural pathways will create impulses and urges to continue doing the old habits. However, when we rewire our habits and beliefs with consistent repetition, we achieve remarkable transformations. The mistake that most of us make when we want to change, is believing that we need to take big action to get big results to succeed. As a result, most people fail soon after they start. It is too hard, too soon, and way out of their comfort zone. The opposite is true. We need to take small simple steps each day. It needs to be easy, realistic, and time-bound so we don’t feel it’s a massive departure from our comfort zone. As you can see, it doesn’t have to take significant time out of your day to make meaningful changes. It takes patience and persistence in your commitments. Make the journey as rewarding as the destination. Just visualize how satisfied and fulfilled you’ll feel when you succeed!
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 Athletes are passionate about their sport and are in it to win it. They are committed to the strict training regiment, the healthy diet, and keeping up with their grades to qualify on the team. However, it can take one bad habit, one bad injury, or one bad season to affect the mindset of an athlete.
Sometimes, the problem is in the movement of the body, most times the problem is in how the player stores the memory of it in their subconscious mind. If the athlete believes or fears the negative experience could occur again, it will greatly impact their performance for weeks or even months. Without the proper coaching, it can deeply affect their future in their sport for good. To perform the best in a sport, even if there was a physical injury is to work on mindset. Question your thoughts, question your beliefs about the situation. Sometimes after a negative event, you can have cognitive distortions where you see things negatively and out of proportion to what occurred. The following are examples: • Labeling: Where you berate yourself for making mistakes, playing poorly – “I suck at this” • Discounting the positive: a good score/shot was sheer luck or a fluke and not from your skills or talents. • Overgeneralization: Assume that one negative game/shot means every game/shot thereafter will be bad too. • Emotional reasoning: Having a false belief that your emotions are the truth and the way you feel about a situation indicates your reality. It’s important to listen and feel emotions but equally important to consider reality based on rational evidence. The fastest, safest, and easiest way back to performing at your best in your sport is using Hypnosis with a life coach, where you can increase confidence, competence, and courage to be your best! My goal, as a coach, is to help you overcome the challenges you face, to achieve your full potential in your sport. So, if you're looking to improve your sports performance, follow me for more tips and insights on how to achieve your goals. If you are ready to take your performance to the next level, let’s work together to help you become the best athlete you can be! If you would like help in applying this to your life, personal or business - please click here to book in a complimentary call with me Schedule-A-Call  Struggling to break out of bad habits? Tired of feeling like you're stuck in a rut? We've all been there. You hit snooze on your alarm every morning, skip your daily workout, or cave into junk food cravings. You might feel like these behaviors are part of who you are, but the truth is that change is possible. And it all starts with self-awareness.
To make lasting changes to your behavior patterns, you need to first recognize what they are. It's a mental game, but you can win it with the right mindset. The key is to want to make changes that align with your goals and intentions. Take a moment to reflect on your daily routine. Are your habits helping or hindering your progress? What areas do you want to work on? Once you've identified the behaviors you want to change, start small. Focus on easy patterns that are repeatable. This will make the change feel more achievable and help you build momentum. Remember, practice makes perfect, so be patient and kind to yourself. Do you struggle to get out of bed in the morning? You hit snooze many times and end up feeling rushed and frazzled. To break this pattern, try putting your alarm across the room from your bed. That way, you'll have to get up to turn it off. The same applies if your phone is your alarm, put it somewhere out of reach. Don't allow your phone to be a distraction from getting out of bed while you scroll through social media. Wash your face to help wake up, and resist the urge to climb back into bed. Stick to this routine for 4-6 weeks, and you'll find that getting up on time becomes easier and easier. If you struggle to eat healthy, take a closer look at what's holding you back. Are you tempted by the vending machine at work, or can't resist the donuts your boss brings in on Mondays? Try interrupting these patterns. Keep healthy snacks or meals available at your desk. Set a reminder on your phone to snack between meals to keep your energy levels up. With practice and repetition, you'll soon find that healthy eating becomes second nature. Changing habits isn't always easy, especially when you've been doing them for years. When you interrupt old patterns and establish new ones, you can create lasting change. Can you imagine starting your day in control, with purpose, more energized, and focused for the day? It's possible, and it starts with taking that first step. If you struggle to make a change on your own, you should consider working with a coach. A coach can guide you through the process and offer support along the way. Together, you can achieve your goals and create the life you want. If you would like help in applying this to your life, personal or business - please click here to book in a complimentary call with me Schedule-A-Call  Don’t wait to feel confident in pursuing a goal to do something new and challenging, build confidence by doing – take action. The more we act, our confidence grows. Instead of thinking of all the ways things could go wrong (fear), your focus goes on the action steps your taking – you feel in control, and you feel more certain, more confident. This is not saying that everything will work out as planned, that’s not the intention here. It’s to get started and build evidence that you are stronger than you think.
Do the following to feel more confident:
The more you take action on challenging experiences, store memories of success, you will naturally become more confident. Don’t wait to feel confident, develop your confidence! “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy” – Dale Carnegie Believe you can. Act, and feel your confidence soar! - Ki4life Coaching If you would like help in applying this to your life, personal or business - please click here to book in a complimentary call with me Schedule-A-Call  We naturally wonder and compare how we measure up to others in society, but we must be careful not to allow those comparisons to diminish us. Psychologists recognize two types of envy. Benign envy is the healthier of the two where we admire someone, and they inspire us to want to be a better version of ourselves. The other is malicious envy where we begrudge someone for the life they have or their success. One can initiate change and motivate us to be better and the other, leaves us feeling stuck in place, bitter and resentful.
When you find that you are comparing yourself to others, and you will, we usually compare our weaknesses to other people’s strengths. This is not a fair comparison. We have no idea how many hours a week and social sacrifices those we are comparing to had to endure to get to where they are. We don’t know how much practice or injuries they had before being exceptional at their talent or sport. Remember, you’re only seeing others highlight reels. They’re not posting their struggles or practices. Instead, as you compare, it’s going to happen, try these suggestions:
"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you." – Ralph Waldo Emerson If you would like help in applying this to your life, personal or business - please click here to book in a complimentary call with me Schedule-A-Call  Do you:
Usually it’s overachieving, hardworking individuals that demand perfection of themselves and have this false belief that they are going to be found out that they are an imposter in some way. Don’t think you are alone, in fact over 60% of knowledge workers struggle with imposter syndrome. So, what can we do about it?
"I have written eleven books, but each time I think, 'uh oh, they're going to find out now. I've run a game on everyone, and they're going to find me out.'" - Maya Angelou Imposter syndrome is simply a negative thinking pattern that can be changed over time with practice. If you would like help in applying this to your life, personal or business - please click here to book in a complimentary call with me Schedule-A-Call  Fear and/or anxiety shows up in all sorts of ways. When we go to do something new and out of our comfort zone, we tend to sabotage ourselves by making all sorts of excuses. We say we don’t have enough time or big enough network or family obligations, when really what is stopping us is fear and anxiety.
When you suffer with anxiety on a daily basis, it consumes your every move. You hesitate on making decisions because you fear what the outcome will be before it even happens. You assume without hesitation that the outcome will not be good. It will cause pain, disappointment or regret. But where is the evidence to prove this to be so? There isn’t any. It’s all been concocted inside your own head! In your amazing imagination you have foreseen the worst case scenario. E.F.T. – Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as ‘tapping’ because you tap on the ends of the meridians on your body. The same meridians that acupuncturists use in their treatments without the use of needles is an amazing technique to alleviate and even remove anxiety in times of stress. I don’t like calling it a technique because it is so much more powerful than just being a technique. It literally changes your energy in minutes to allow your body and mind to be more relaxed. There is a huge psychological component to just tapping on the meridians. It’s important to express out loud to yourself what is it that is making you so anxious. You are focusing in with words and emotion what really is bothering you. Of course, emotions will rise and you may feel a little tearful but only a little tearful because while your tapping on the points, you are also calming down the Amygdala in your brain that holds the fight, flight or freeze response that’s there to keep you safe. When we are anxious, we feel fearful that something is terribly wrong or will go terribly wrong and we don’t feel safe. When we tap on the meridian points along with the correct wording, we are acknowledging our feelings and releasing the fear. It sounds simple and that’s because it is that simple and powerful. However, it is best to work with someone who is familiar with the right phrasing and wording to get the best results. It’s safe, simple and quick and can be taught to even children very easily and effectively. If this is something that you would be interested in learning, please contact me and we can set up a 90 minute appointment to release you from your anxiety, feel more confident and take action on your goals.  During this time of isolation and self-reflection, some of us have identified a need for change in our lives. That change is different for each of us but the fundamentals of how we should approach any changes should follow a similar and clearly defined process. So maybe, you’re unhappy with your current role or employer. You feel unrewarded, undervalued, lacking fulfilment, and/or growth opportunities. You really have two options – stay or leave.
 Without accountability, very few achieve their goals, it sets the tone of owning your obligation to complete what you’ve committed to. It does not matter if it’s a personal goal or you are part of a larger project, accountability changes how others perceive you, trust you and whether people want to work with or collaborate with you. If you are accountable, they know you’ll hold your end up, and take ownership for your actions to complete what you set out to achieve.
 Feeling overwhelmed is like when your 4 walls feel like they are closing in on you, too many things to accomplish in your head can feel very similar to the clutter in your living and work space. Your mind feels overwhelmed with things you should do or what you have to do.
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